Eight major troubles trouble young people
People often sigh: Nowadays, the lives of young children are more modern, richer and more colorful.
But do they realize that they are extremely happy?
Why are more and more children always saying “depressed”?
Deputy Chief Physician Zhang Ye of Tianjin Anding Hospital’s Psychological Diagnosis and Treatment Center (Adolescent Clinic) said that the center’s latest questionnaire survey of 1,800 middle and primary school students showed that eight major troubles troubled young children.
The eight major worries of youth and children surveyed this time are: poor academic performance and no confidence to learn well (accounting for 36.
9%); homework that can never be completed (34.
8%); parents only know that they care about their academic performance, they ca n’t understand us (32%); parents do n’t let me play and do n’t have time to play (31%); they only like computer games, other activities are not interesting (26%)Feeling lonely without friends (21.
8%); father and mother always quarrel, unhappy family atmosphere (18.
4%); suspected teachers are eccentric, unfair, arbitrary, stern, shy, so do not like teachers (16.
What are the negative impacts of the eight major worries on children? Impact one: Once students lose confidence in learning, they will inevitably underestimate themselves.
Such children will often compare their own weaknesses to the strengths of others, so they always feel that they are inferior to others. The more they are more discouraged, they will have an inferiority complex.
Those who are light make them stay away from difficulties, and those who are serious may even be decadent, outdated, and distorted.
Impact two: Adolescents are burdened with heavy psychological pressure due to their heavy learning burden.
Some adolescents can’t bear these psychological pressures, sometimes show unusual resistance, form domestic violence, and have very few thoughts, even negative suicide.
Impact three: Because children’s free time is difficult to be guaranteed, almost all of their time is spent on learning, but this passive behavior will increase their stress and mental burden, and their real interests, hobbies, and valuable creativityMay be suppressed.
Stress will greatly reduce their enthusiasm for life, and life becomes dull for them.
Impact 4: Parents are the students’ first teachers. Some parents often reprimand their children because they neglect to communicate with their children, making children afraid of their parents and lack of emotional communication.
The child cannot get help when faced with difficulties, and cannot be encouraged when faced with setbacks, which makes the child have a sense of “depression” and “a sense of grievance.”
Impact 5: Many parents and teachers only value their children’s academic performance. The direct consequence of this is that students have greater psychological pressure, and computer games allow students to achieve their own goals according to their wishes and to be happy.This is an important psychological reason for students’ obsession with computer games.
However, due to the unhealthy content of many games and the lack of judging ability of young people to judge things, it is easy to cause incomplete personality development.
Impact 6: Because the current family education and school education focus on academic performance, students’ academic burden and psychological pressure are relatively heavy, and the only child growing up is relatively lonely, making the Internet a lot of young people to avoid the burden and pressure to find psychological sustenance”Air-raid shelters” and indulged in them and couldn’t extricate themselves.
Impact 7: The family is the first school of a person. Due to the change of marriage and family, the family is not harmonious and unstable, and it is easy for children to lack the affection from parents and parents, and they cannot receive the guidance, education, and care they deserve.Can even become a cause of minors to commit crimes.
Impact eight: Because some teachers lack communication with students, teachers cannot understand the actual situation of students, and students do not understand the goals that teachers want to achieve.
Therefore, the two parties cannot collide, can’t attract interaction, and lack emotional communication.
In the long run, this will not only cause students to dislike teachers, but also make them more likely to lose their confidence in learning and the motivation to move forward.
Deputy Chief Physician Zhang Ye said that whether or not adolescents are happy is an important sign of their healthy growth.
Today’s children have deeper psychological distress than their predecessors. The pressure of learning makes them breathless. They have no partners at home, and they are accompanied by a superior environment and loneliness and loneliness.
Once adolescents have psychological problems, it is advisable to take appropriate measures to remediate them.
Parents and teachers should not discriminate against or ridicule children when their academic studies fail temporarily. Instead, they should tap their learning potential and give them more encouragement, so that they can strengthen their self-confidence and allow children to experience the success of learning and taste the hardships of learningAnd share the joy of success with them in a timely manner.
In addition, the communication of the mind, the exchange of emotional experience, and the collision of thought sparks are also very important. You should strive for a 20-30 minute opportunity to speak with your child every day. Find out what activities are in their school and what are the children’s experiences and feelings?
In addition, the harmony of family relationships, the kindness of teachers, and humor naturally make teenagers and children have a happy mood both in the family and in school.